I have a personal list of about eight habits I'm working to correct. Stuff like losing weight, exercise more, freelance productivity, update blogs regularly, drink less wine (gasp! yes, my 4th step admission), have fewer temper tantrums, be nicer to myself, etc. I've made a mental rubric of these habits and rate myself periodically on my progress in each (daily rating would be ideal, but I'm not that organized). 1-needs improvement, 2-meh, 3-not bad, 4-high five, mama. I add up my points and if I got more than 50 percent (16) I count it a good day. Less than that and I file it as a not-so-hot one (which we are all entitled to have). I then release it. No good using it to flog myself with. Then I give thanks to my higher power for allowing me the day to live. This slow-and-steady system has helped me gently make self-tweaks where needed. Progress, (generally upward) not perfection. That's me two years and 40 pounds heavier. I'm taking weight loss in bite-sized portions (pun intended).
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Progress (in a relatively upward pattern) not perfection
I have a personal list of about eight habits I'm working to correct. Stuff like losing weight, exercise more, freelance productivity, update blogs regularly, drink less wine (gasp! yes, my 4th step admission), have fewer temper tantrums, be nicer to myself, etc. I've made a mental rubric of these habits and rate myself periodically on my progress in each (daily rating would be ideal, but I'm not that organized). 1-needs improvement, 2-meh, 3-not bad, 4-high five, mama. I add up my points and if I got more than 50 percent (16) I count it a good day. Less than that and I file it as a not-so-hot one (which we are all entitled to have). I then release it. No good using it to flog myself with. Then I give thanks to my higher power for allowing me the day to live. This slow-and-steady system has helped me gently make self-tweaks where needed. Progress, (generally upward) not perfection. That's me two years and 40 pounds heavier. I'm taking weight loss in bite-sized portions (pun intended). 
This too shall pass...
I've not seen "The Most Exotic Marigold Hotel" yet but I'm looking forward to it. One line caught my notice from the trailer. "Everything will be alright in the end. If it's not alright, it's not the end." Wise words (though spoken by a conniving sheister).
How often do I panic because I think now is forever? I forget that how things are now is not how they'll always be. I love the AA expression "this too shall pass." Sadly, few good things last forever, but happily neither do the sad things. I will be given the strength, wisdom I need when I need it. Not before or I might lose it. Not when it's too late and I don't need it anymore.
I'm going to concentrate on this eternal truth, just for today.
How often do I panic because I think now is forever? I forget that how things are now is not how they'll always be. I love the AA expression "this too shall pass." Sadly, few good things last forever, but happily neither do the sad things. I will be given the strength, wisdom I need when I need it. Not before or I might lose it. Not when it's too late and I don't need it anymore.
I'm going to concentrate on this eternal truth, just for today.
One day at a time...sometimes one moment
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